We like to think we can separate our personal life from our professional one. But the truth is whatever you haven’t healed or worked through will follow you into the workplace. When you struggle with self-esteem in your personal life, it doesn’t magically stay behind when you open your laptop or walk into a boardroom. If people-pleasing is your default at home or in relationships, chances are, it’s showing up in meetings, in your hesitation to advocate for yourself, or in your tendency to overdeliver while staying under-recognized.
So many of my clients come to me focused on the external things: how to land a new role, get promoted, or feel more confident in leadership spaces. But the deeper we go, the more it becomes clear, the issue isn’t ability. It’s belief. Most of them are already leading in powerful ways. They’re holding their families down, showing up in their churches, managing through heartbreak, raising kids, mentoring friends, and keeping entire systems running without recognition. They’re leaders in every sense of the word, just not calling themselves that—yet.
But here’s the catch: what’s unresolved personally starts to leak into every professional space. You second-guess your decisions. You avoid conflict even when your ideas deserve to be heard. You shrink in rooms you’ve earned your way into. Not because you’re unqualified but because the internal narrative still says you’re not quite enough. This is where the real work begins not with fixing your LinkedIn profile, but with asking deeper questions. What have you been believing about yourself? Who taught you that being liked was safer than being respected? When did you first decide that staying
small was the better option?
And then we start looking at what’s true, really true. The strength you’ve shown through your hardest seasons. The consistency you bring to people who count on you. The quiet leadership you practice every single day without the need for applause. Those same qualities? They’re the foundation of the professional leader you’re becoming. You don’t need to perform to earn your seat, you need to recognize the power you already bring.
The transformation doesn’t happen overnight. But when women begin to reconnect with themselves when they see their personal growth and professional potential as part of the same story, that’s when everything shifts. They stop apologizing for their presence. They speak up without over-explaining. They lead without needing permission. They stop chasing the title and start becoming the version of themselves who no longer doubts whether she belongs in the room.
If this speaks to you, I want you to know you’re not broken, behind, or too late. You’re just ready to stop skimming the surface and start doing the real work. The kind that lasts. The kind that changes how you see yourself forever.
If you’re ready to finally move past what’s holding you back and step fully into the
leader you already are, book a free discovery call today. Let’s talk about what you really
want and what’s really been in the way.
Please note that I don’t make any guarantees about the results of the information provided. I share educational and informational resources that are intended to help you succeed in the coaching program. You nevertheless need to know that your ultimate success or failure will be the result of your own efforts, your particular situation, and innumerable other circumstances beyond my knowledge and control. I am not a licensed psychologist or specialist healthcare professional. My services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. I can’t take any responsibility for the results of your actions and any harm or damage you suffer as a result of the use, or non-use of the information provided.
