End-of-Year Reflections That Actually Lead Somewhere
There’s a version of surrender that’s been misunderstood. It’s not waving a white flag in defeat—it’s handing over the steering wheel when you realize your grip never guaranteed direction in the first place.
As the year closes, I find myself revisiting one truth again and again: control is an illusion that costs us too much.
Real surrender: soul-deep surrender is not about giving up. It’s about giving access.
Access to every tightly held belief, every area where we’ve been whispering to ourselves, “I’ve got this, I’ll figure it out,” while quietly running on empty.
Jesus didn’t ask us to give up our strength He asked us to give Him access to it. He asked for obedience, not performance. And if I’m honest, sometimes obedience is harder.
Obedience Isn’t Blind. It’s Brave
Obedience means I trust God more than I trust my own ability to plan my life.
It means I move even when I can’t predict the outcome.
It means I choose trust over control, again and again.
“If I don’t obey Him, if I don’t let Him lead, then I don’t belong to Him.”
That line hit me hard when I wrote it. Because isn’t that the wrestle? I want Him to be Savior, but am I letting Him be King?
And not just King of Sunday mornings but King of my decisions, King of my heart’s triggers, King of the parts of me I still think I can manage better than He can?
The Exchange: Control for Transformation
The truth is: control feels safer, but it doesn’t heal.
Only surrender heals. Only surrender transforms.
Because in that surrender, God meets us with clarity, peace, and a direction that doesn’t rely on our hustle.
In my journal, I wrote this question:
“What do I do when I face a God I can’t control?”
And the answer I landed on was simple and terrifying:
I obey Him.
For the Woman Who’s Done Holding It All
If you’re stepping into this season feeling worn from carrying it all; family, business, ministry, expectations; this word is for you:
You were never meant to carry it. You were meant to submit it!
That’s not weakness. That’s spiritual alignment.
That’s where divine flow begins.
This is the moment where you don’t just talk about surrender; you live it.
Not perfectly. But honestly.
You trade performance for presence.
You exchange “figuring it out” for faith.
You choose trust, not as a mindset, but as a move.
Year-End Reflection Questions for Alignment:
Final Word:
Surrender is not the end of your strength; it’s the activation of it.
As you close out this year, don’t just reflect—release.
Let God meet you in the letting go.
Let obedience unlock the blessings control never could.
And remember: You’re not giving up.
You’re giving access.
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